Are you missing out?
Now that everyone’s home, working remotely are you missing out?
Is there a party happening somewhere that you don’t know about?
Did someone post something on Instagram or TikTok that looked like they were having fun but you weren’t there?
Or even worst, the one place you are engaging with people was there a meeting that was had that no one invited you to so now you have to read… the minutes?
Are there even minutes to read?
How many times have you struggled with having potentially missed out on something great in a year(s) where you don’t have that many great stories to talk about?
I ran into a friend the other night that I had not spoken to (or seen in person) for over a year and guess what?
We hadn’t missed anything.
We talked about what was going on in our lives, how lucky we were in how our lives were at this point in time. Yes things aren’t perfect, but we’re good and our families are good and that’s what matters most.
In the early days of the Pandemic, people were very worried about not being invited to all the important meetings. They were bothered by this, saddened at the lost chance of interaction with people or that something might be discussed without their knowledge or input.
I liken this to a lack of trust amongst their team.
So we, as a team, as a group, had to work on this — what do we need to do to trust each other more. What is holding us back from believing that someone else can take this meeting and run with it without five other people being there. It wasn’t easy, it required some tough decisions and sometimes we kicked people out. But we weren’t getting anything done, weren’t achieving anything and that was becoming more demoralizing than FOMO.
We changed our structures, we changed our messaging. We reduced what meetings people needed to come to and what they needed to bring to the table. We didn’t reduce interactions. In fact, we have a bit more free time now that we have some socializing meetings where we have lunch, talk about life, and don’t feel stressed about having to go to the next thing.
Our team camaraderie has grown as well, we lean on each other more than we did before, are upfront when we are struggling, and take steps to correct things quicker than we used to.
There is no more FOMO (or perhaps very little of it) because we’ve replaced it with ensuring everyone knows — you have a voice at the meetings you are brought into, your voice matters more than simply being an attendee and what we do, we do as a team.
If you’re feeling FOMO on your team, the first place I’d suggest to start is to see if you have those elements on your team that is creating an aura of FOMO which could be what is stressing you out and holding you and your team back.
As move towards working remotely for at least another year, it’s important to recognize what is and what isn’t and then make a plan to move forward from there.